Just Let It Go

It's a hard pill to swallow to admit to yourself when a relationship isn't going to work out. You had high aspirations for the situation, but they cannot compensate for the fact that the situation is doomed and there is no way to salvage it.

Although it is evident that shit is fucked up, the hardest thing to do is to walk away. Maybe your pride is holding you back, preventing you from admitting to yourself that it's over. You want to save face. Or maybe it's the hope that things will improve. That this is just a phase that will pass soon. But the relationship continues to fold, forcing you to admit the cold, hard truth--that it is time to let go.

The hardest part is making the initial step. You may still have feelings for your partner, so you don't want to just walk away. You don't want to just leave him alone. You feel like you can't just walk away from all the time, energy, etc. that you have invested. Sure, in the recent past he has been emotionally unavailable, disrespectful, and inconsiderate of your feelings, but he used to be so sweet and loving. You know that those good qualities are still there. They just need to be brought back out.

He may still have those qualities, but what good are they if he's not showing them to you? Those good qualities haven't surfaced for some time now. Sometimes you wonder if they still exist. If he's not treating you like the queen you were born to be, you need to find someone who will. Fuck sticking it out. He's sticking it out for convenience. Make it easy for him and bounce.

You have two options: you can stay in a one-sided relationship and continue to hold on to the hope that things will change, or you can take action and do both yourselves a favor and put the relationship out of its misery. It's going to be hard at first, but you'll be fine. Essentially you're alone anyway. You can do bad by yourself. You're still young and beautiful. You will meet someone else who is worthy of you and find true happiness. Don't stand in your own way.

Cry, grieve, vent, laugh, get fucked up (don't get ignorant with it though)...do what you gotta do to release those negative emotions. Build yourself back up. I promise you that when you come back you are going to be stronger, better, and more fabulous than ever.